Welcome!
I'm Dr. Torna Pitman, founder of TalkingWise.
Since 2005, my work as a social worker, educator, and counsellor has been devoted to understanding the impact of mishandled conversations on relationships. Through my research and practice, I introduced the term "Conversational Control," which I define as manipulating conversations to avoid, obstruct, or overpower essential discussions, thereby hindering fairness and equality in relationships.

In my book, Tangled Web of Words, I delve into the various levels of Conversational Control and illustrate how its most extreme forms constitute Coercive Control.
This book is crafted to assist practitioners working with people and individuals grappling with the complexities of past, present, or future relationships. By unpacking the mechanics of Conversational Control and its pivotal role in relational abuse, the book aims to demystify confusion and empower readers.
 
Tangled Web of Words: a breakthrough guide to Conversational and Coercive Control is available here!
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